After some 6 or 8 iterations I've finally come to a pan fried steak + pan sauce recipe I'm happy with. The original recipe overcooked my steak if it wasn't a NY strip so I had to adjust a lot of things.
tl;dr i'm frying the steak in ghee to sear and do most of the cooking, then bundling it in tinfoil and letting it finish while I make the pan sauce. No oven is required.
I haven't tried to cook a steak since I started being a bit more serious about cooking, so this was a good learning experience for me... some takeaways that may seem like common sense, but that were new to me:
1) NY strip cooks longer since it's always cut thicker, every recipe must be adjusted accordingly
2) the stovetop is MORE than sufficient to get a blazing hot pan and sear your steak, and still have it be blue after resting. especially if your pan gets as hot as my beloved cast iron pan, you'll have to back the heat down according to the thickness of your steak so it has time to cook
3) pan sauce doesn't really require any drippings to make, it's more about the crust that's developed in the pan. just let that steak hold onto the drippings in the foil, or pour it over your food separately
4) only very little force is required to keep your steak from contracting after flipping, leaving the spatula to sit on top for 30 seconds should do the trick
5) when marinating season the crap out of it, whatever you use use a lot of it. don't add salt until you're ready to cook, though (obviously to prevent the steak from drying out). if marinating at the last minute you can lightly score with a fork to help get the seasoning in, but I've gotten better results by simply planning ahead of time and doing anywhere from a half to full day marinade.
6) when letting the steak warm to room temperature it really means room temperature, not close to it. if you want a medium rare steak and you start with a still slightly chilled steak, you'll get rare or less. not the worst thing since you can fix it, but still annoying. just get it right the first time
7) a pan fried steak will cook a little bit unevenly due to not being uniform in shape. giving it a spin or 2, as well as spooning hot oil over the top should be enough to keep it mostly even.
8) pan sauce for steak is WAY BETTER with dark beer than it is with wine, I can't wait to share that part of the recipe. i also did it with dark soy sauce instead of worchestershire, so i think i've developed a unique flavor
9) pan sauce should be a little bit watery so it can be easily absorbed by the steak. a thick sauce looks nice, but transmits flavor less well. along these lines, pressing the sauce through an oil filter will also make it easier to consume for the same reason.
10) a whole steak is like 850 calories. there's no reason to serve a whole steak with a portion of starch since it's filling enough on it's own. only serve with starch if you're doing a half steak, even if it's a smaller one.
here's some of my better results below...
just pulled this ribeye out of the foil
rare ribeye with some of that amazing pan sauce :)
you can actually see some of the sauce being absorbed by the meat on the left piece
medium NY strip, this was before i decided to make pan sauce